When Your Heart Deceives You

Most of us have heard the scripture: "The heart is deceitful above all things."

How often (or not) has someone come along and you were sure that this must be "the one," only for you to find out that your heart was playing tricks on you. We are a gullible people, most of us, because that little void within us all is reserved for that one special person who is the only one to fill that void. And how we long to fill that void; so when love hits us, or at least we think it's love, then of course we want that person to be "the one," the one to fill the void, the one to call us home, the one to help us rest in timeless suspension.

But what if the person you thought was "the one" is only another relationship to prepare you for the real deal? How will you know that this was not the one?

It would be nice to be awake and conscious enough to "get it" right away. Because Life knows the signs and symbols and red flags are all there right from the get-go. What's in the way are those pink glasses we seem to see everything through. It's as if we have to get hurt over and over again until those glasses get knocked off and we can see clearly again that we get back on the right track.

Here is a simple rule of thumb to knowing if the person you're dealing with is "the one" or just another relationship in preparation of "the one."

If s/he does something and you express that this hurts you, and s/he continues to do them - s/he is NOT the one. No matter what the circumstances, no matter the excuses, no matter the plan, your beloved Twin Soul simply doesn't have it in him or her to hurt you because in doing so, s/he would only hurt him/herself, which would contradict his or her very essence.

Above all, love yourself with dignity, integrity, unconditionally and be gentle with yourself. Don't hurt yourself and certainly don't let anyone else hurt you either. Love should never hurt even for a split second but should be a stronghold for people to come to for nourishment and safety.