David Deida wrote a great book called "The Way of the Superior Man." A must-have for all men and women. I am rewriting the following paragraph to address my beloved Twin Soul.
"Beloved, I know your weaknesses better than anybody. I know where you will falter and give up. I know the degree of medicirty you will settle for. And, I know your true capacity as a full man, a man of free consciousness and love. My gift to you, because I am a good woman, is to test you with my darkest moods, over and over and over, until your consciousness is unperturbed by my feminine challenge, and you are able to pervade me with your love, just as you are here to pervade the world. In response to your fearless consciouness, I will drench your world in love and light."
When you're out with your buddies and they encourage you to go ask that woman across the room for her phone number because she's been noticing you, you might have one of the following three internal dialogues:
There are three stages a man might handle this situation:
1. "She's interested in me, I should take advantage of the situation. No one will ever find out, or I can confess it later."
2. "I should indeed take advantage of her interest in me, but I won't because I made a promise to my partner that I won't cheat on her."
3. "I am not interested in the least because I've already met my 'one and only' and have everything I need and want in her."
The first guy is what women call "a dog." He'll take any opportunity to be with a woman whose interested in him. Most women would label the second guy for a great guy because of his strength not to ask an attractive woman for her phone number. They would be ecstatic to have a man like that in their life.
I on the other hand would be disappointed that you didn't take path number three. Granted, if you had chosen path number two, you didn't ask for her phone number, because right now we're in a great space, are in love, and are having a great time. But what would have happened if we had a fight that night and were going through a rough time in our lives? I wonder if a little "side step" with a stranger would have been a nice "break" for you... The reason you wouldn't ask for her number is not because of the promise you made to me, but because you believe that you're already with your Twin Soul and nothing can compare to our union.
What I want and desire more than anything in my man is strength of character. There are way too many whimps on this planet. You can promise the world to me and keep most of your promises. But if you are keeping your promises because of me and not because of your own character, than your promises eventually will crumble like a house of cards. These promises you make will result in seeds of resentment and eventually you would feel like I'm controlling you. I have no desire in being with you if you need to make promises to me... I need to know that you do and don't do things because it's just not who you are, or because it's just who you are and how you want to live your life, no matter what anyone else says, including me.Your word must be worth gold to you. Let your "yes" mean "yes" and your "no" mean "no." Then I can trust you, surrender into you and be all woman. Then I can let myself go into your essence, knowing that the core of you will always keep me safe and that you never compromise our love, because you never compromise your soul.
STRENGTH OF CHARACTER wins by far any other qualities I am looking for in you. It translates into leadership that I can trust and in doing so you are building our stairway into heaven.
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