The Sun and the Moon - Perfect Leader, Perfect Surrender

On a constant, exiting and exhilirating journey to finding my own Self in my relationship with my true Twin Soul, I am left to working on myself. The visions continue pouring in, the journey continues getting more and more full with guidance, milestones and tremendous insights from what seems legions of helpers.


Relationships are meant to be so easy if we just watched and followed our examples of Mother Nature. Yes I know, it's easier said than done - but truly, if we were to look more, feel more, and be more, and talk a whole lot less, than all our questions would be answered and not only that, but we would also be given the steps of HOW and WHAT to do next.


Let's look at our biggest examples. They're so big they're in our face every day. Yet we seem to miss them all together because we've never stopped long enough to "get it" and soak them in. And because we've gotten used to them. So here it is. Soak it in, think about it, meditate about it, watch them, and let them do the work inside of you, and you're off into a whole new direction in life.


What am I talking about?

The sun and the moon. Male and Female. Our perfect examples.

• The sun is masculine, the moon is feminine.
• The sun radiates, the moon contracts and takes in, she absorbs.
• The sun is light, the moon is dark.
• The sun initiates, the moon receives (and regives the sun's light in equal measures back to him).
• The sun is much farther away from their "child," planet Earth, the moon always circles around her "child" and protects it.
• The sun never tires and never withholds his rays under any circumstances.
• Even when the moon seems to hide her face or hide behind her child, the sun continues shining his rays in complete trust that eventually she will come forward again and show her full face.
• Likewise the moon trusts that when she's ready to show her full face again, he's there shining on her in his full leadership.
• He always pursues her, he never tires of pursueing and chasing after her, even when she hides behind their "child" he continues pursuing her, knowing full well that she'll always reflect back his amazing glory in due time.
• He never ceases to trust in his leadership and his mission.
• While the sun is simple and steady, she has her rhythms and they both allow each other their purposes.
• Never for a second do either one of them leave their galactic path; they're a team and they stay on course.

Sounds pretty simple doesn't it? It is!

Imagine the sun having an attitude because she's on her "cycle" and is hiding from him, so he decides to stop pursuing her, and stops shining his light on her. Imagine if she decided to hop over to another galaxy, abandoning their union and their "child" planet Earth, while she's off duty getting light from another galaxy's sun. We'd have a cosmic disaster.


Granted, no one probably ever thought of it this way because we've come to blindly trust that the sun always comes up, and always shines. We know the moon changes our attitudes during a full moon and we are googly-eyed over her full face over a beautiful lake and we feel her magic and yet what we're really looking at during a full moon is a reflection of HIS light.

All a great woman ever does is hold his space and reflect what he first gives her (and it should be nothing but warmth, light and leadership in which she can trust).

In other words, a great leader is always reflected in his woman's face (as is a leader that withholds his leadership). You can always tell when a woman radiates and when she's in pain. It never fails to be traced back to the masculine somehow. And I'm not saying this to point the finger at men when your woman is sad. I am saying it to highlight and underline the tremendous power you, as the male, have over any woman. Do you realize, truly realize that your power is all that matters on this planet? And that your woman's ability to hold your power, surrender to you and reflect back your power to you is what closes the circle of life and completes life??

But what if the woman is simply disconnected or absent and too numb or dull to even feel his rays, let alone reflect them back to him? It's called a lifetime of disappointment and a lack of chance to ever be able to surrender into her man fully...Do you as a woman even know what it feels like and looks like to be be completely surrendered where time and space and even the edges of your body completely disappear and disolve into your sun?


I'm learning that in order for the moon to be receptive of his full light, she must first of all be present. She must be willing to trust his leadership and she must never pursue him because she knows that is his job, not hers. In today's world where the feminine movement is teaching women to take over "male roles" and to give instructions to employees, both men and women, we have become depolarized and de-feminized (if that's even a word). There's nothing wrong with having a powerful position in business, provided the woman doesn't become a man internally at her core. I find that most CEO women's first act of faith is to chop off their hair and to wear suits like men do. Why...


Having grown up developing my masculine essence to the "t," I know how hard it is now for me to give over the reigns to the masculine. And I don't mean the masculine within me, but the masculine in a man. I find that most men are "pussy-whipped" and they're confused as to what a true leader's role is. I find nothing more repulsive than a man who doesn't know his purpose and doesn't follow his true calling. And likewise, I find nothing more miraculous and attractive than a man who knows his purpose and follows it wholeheartedly, with a "no matter what" attitude. Such a man I can follow, such a man I can trust, such a man I know I can't push around and not that I'm looking to push my man around, but I need to know more than anything that he can stand up for himself, his purpose and most of all, for what is right (in spite of me). Only then can I truly surrender and be all woman and give up control and give up the reigns and do what I do best: be a woman who reflects back to him what he first gave me - his unconditional leadership and love to his mission, which includes me.

Where to find such a man?



I'm realizing that it's not about finding him as much as it is recognizing him and most of all, letting him find me and recognize me. I'm realizing that it's not my job to chase after him. It's his job to chase after me...He'll know when he sees me and feels my essence. He will be relentless in his pursuit of me because he knows that I am part of his mission because I make his mission easier by helping him multiply his rays (by reflecting his own love back to him).


Is your Moon truly out there?


I also realize that men reading this may wonder if their "moon" is truly out there. It's a scientific and astronomical fact that all planets and moons are born of Suns. What this means is that your seed was here first. Therefore, your moon must be "out there." It can't be otherwise. But before finding her "out there" you must find her "in here." Remember, she was born of you, so you had her at one point. In fact, she never left you, it only appears this way. First recognize her within you, call her within you. All you need to do to "find her again" is to decide that you're the leader, man up about ALL areas of your life and be about YOUR purpose. Shine, shine, and shine some more. And before you know it you will recognize her in front of you because what you are recognizing is in reality your Self.


Is your Sun truly out there?

As far as women is concerned. You were born of your Sun and he's obviously shining out there "somewhere." Likewise you're just hiding your face, in an eclipse type of mode, so you can't even see that he's looking for you. Be your Self, go inward, recognize him there first, be the "dark" and mysterious that you are and find his light there first. Be all woman, all feminine. Stop playing the role of your man. Yes, if you're single and a single Mom at that, you must continue working and paying your bills and being father and mother all at the same time. That's okay, just play your feminine parts that way: all feminine! Start treating yourself like the woman you want to feel like; the way you want your man to treat you. Call him through your actions of how you treat yourself first. Surrender to his light now, even though he doesn't seem to be in the picture as of yet, and before you know it, you'll recognize his light from within and your reunion will be the joyous event that it is meant to be.

True Femininity

What does true femininity mean? Many may point out a sensual woman, an actress like Sophia Loren or Marilyn Monroe. A woman who is curvy, voluptous and carries it well. One of my personal favorites is Jennifer Love Hewett - very feminine indeed. Femininity however goes truly beyong looks and an hour-glass figure. And then of course we have those that are so screwed up that they think anorexia is feminine (see photo below).

True femininity as in the opposite of masculinity, however, is something completely different all together. We all feature mascule and feminine sides and attributes, as it should be. And as a society we try to figure out what the "male species" and the "female species" is all about.

In Feng Shui things that are pointed or cornered are always male. Things that are round or wavy are always feminine. It's pretty simple and straight forward.

David Deida describes it this way: "If a man has a masculine sexual essence, then his priority is his mission, his direction towards the greater release, freedom, and consciousness. If a woman has a feminine sexual essence, then her priority is the flow of love in her life, including her relationship with a man whom she can totally trust, in body, emotion, mind, and spirit."

He goes on saying: "Your woman's core is fulfilled by love. Your core (the man's core) is released from stress by aligning your life with your mission. To you, intimacy is something to be enjoyed in addition to your purpose. To your woman, intimacy is at the core of her life, and the tone of your intimacy colors everything else she does."

"You (the man) are lodged in the heart of your woman. She feels you all day. She senses where you are at. Feeling-threads from her heart are connected to your heart, day and night. You are not replaceable in her perception."

He continues saying: "Without a deep and loving intimacy - with you or with the divine - she hurts. It will never work for her to try to quell the pain by absorbing herself in her career, her art, or her friends. If she has a feminine essence, she must honor herself by owning her deep desire for the flow of love in her heart, just as a person with a masculine essence must honor his or her direction in order to be truly happy."

And my favorite part saying it in plain English: "If one of your highest goals is psychological or spiritual reedom, then you will highly value your intimacy. Nobody will press your buttons or reflect your asshole to you better than your woman. She will point out your weaknesses better than a boot camp drill sergeant. She will reflect your ambiguity or clarity better than any workshop teacher. She will do you better than a whore and give you more loving than you can handle. And all the while she will shower your life with radiant blessing, healing, and enlivenment - if she learns to own her true feminine desires and you learn to own your true masculine desires."

I can't add to these words because they speak so true of how differently men and women function. Granted, we all have masculine and feminine tendencies. There is a core in each of us, however. And for me as a woman, my core needs to be "all woman." A difficult task for me because my Dad wished I was born a boy. He treated me like a boy most of my childhood and I didn't accept that I was a girl until I was 10 years old, long after I was enrolled in soccer, rugby, ice hockey and I came home dirty every night trying to catch frogs and crickets with the boys. I was a tomboy to say the least.

Femininity is new to me. Well, shall I say it's a new realization for me. It obviously has always been there (no sex change here, I'm all woman indeed). And at times I realize how powerful this feminine source is and I'm learning slowly but surely to stay in the feminine rather than hopping over to the masculine where it's much more comfortable (because it's so much simpler).

The masculine is black or white, up or down, yes or no - not much drama here.

The feminine seems to flow left, right, up, down, inside and out - how couldn't anyone get confused with all these directions! No wonder men are confused and never know what to expect!

So while I am waiting for you, my beloved Twin Soul, I shall have a lot of work to do finding my comfort zone in this wild, wild country of femininity. I may get lost from time to time, but I vow to continually work on becoming more feminine, and all the woman that I have come to be. Be it in the form of the make-up and clothes or wear (I just bought a pair of red high heels, my first I admit), or in the way I yield to a man's leadership because I understand and accept that this is his purpose.

Frankly, I'm tired and exhausted of looking like a woman, having a career like a masculine woman, wearing the pants in every situation and being a mother and father all at the same time. I long to be fragile, to nestle into your Being and to be able to surrender to you with my full confidence and trust.

It's time for us to be together and I am ready for you to come home...